How to Travel Solo and Meet People Without Drinking
I love to travel solo as often as I can, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like to socialize. While I do enjoy a glass of wine every now and then, I’m not a big drinker. So I wanted to find new ways to meet and mingle with other travelers without hitting up the bar and club scene. So if you’re like me and are looking for ideas on how to naturally interact with others—without it seeming like you’re being clingy, weird or creepy—here’s some ideas. As always, be safe, cautious and trust your instincts.
1. Volunteer
In 2010 I went to New Orleans by myself to volunteer a few years after Hurricane Katrina. I didn’t know anyone in the city, but I’d been there before and remembered loving it, so I decided to go back. At this point, I’d only been on one solo trip, so I was a little nervous. But I was there to help the community, and that was my focus. I volunteered with an organization called Hands on New Orleans and ended up meeting a really cool girl who worked for one of the non-profits HONO partnered with. She invited me to hang out since she knew I was traveling alone, and we’ve been friends ever since. We’re so close that I visit her at least one a year and I was in her wedding. I consider her one of my dearest friends who I will always have in my life.
2. Go to Church
I understand this suggestion isn’t for everyone, but I’m adding it for those who do have some sort of faith in a religion. I live in Los Angeles and I’m from SoCal, but in 2010 I moved to NYC by myself (after the New Orleans trip). I had a couple of friends there, but I didn’t know many people. I moved without a job or long-term place to live, but felt it was something I had to do. I admit, I don’t attend church regularly, but I am strong in my Christian faith, so I went to a service where I was greeted by a sweet girl. She asked me to brunch afterwards and we instantly became friends. She introduced me to everyone she knew, and within a few weeks I had an amazing group of good girlfriends. I only stayed in NYC for a year or so before moving back to LA, but I am still friends with everyone to this day.
3. Yoga
Take a class. Most yogis I’ve met are friendly and don’t mind grabbing a chai tea latte or coffee after a session.
4. Hostels
If you’re staying in one, chances are there’s a common area where people are hanging out. Head there and start chatting it up. It’s easy to make small talk with other travelers. Many are cool and will be happy to have you along on their adventures. Or if you’re comfortable, ask them to go on yours.
5. Couchsurfing app.
I personally don’t couchsurf, but on the app, there’s a hangout section where you can connect with others in the city. Use common sense when meeting up with people you don’t know. Go to a public place, don’t go late at night and if you get the vibe someone isn’t cool, leave the situation.
6. Tours
I’m all about taking tours. I love them because it’s a great way to see a new city in a short amount of time. And everyone I’ve encountered on tours has been fun to be around. I suggest a free walking tour (many cities have them) or a guided group tour. Bus tours are not the best, because people get off at various stops along the way and it’s harder to talk to others.
7. Airbnb
I like my space, so if I do Airbnb I always rent the entire apartment. However, you can stay in a guest house or a shared space where you can interact with the owner and they can offer recommendations on where to go and what to see. A lot of times, they’re super cool and will offer to take you around. So it’s like you have a friend on the trip, but it’s almost even better because you don’t have to spend every second with them if you want some alone time.
8. Classes
Take a cooking, dance, or language class. Those are always great ways to meet people.
9. Cafes
Who doesn’t love going to a great cafe and sitting outside to people watch while enjoying an espresso? Grab your favorite book, find the perfect spot, and start mingling. (The book is only for you to read when there’s nobody interesting around for you to talk to. It can also be a conservation ice breaker.)
10. Think Outside the Box.
I’ve met people while waiting in line for food, on trains, commenting on how much I loved a girl’s outfit (we’re still friends to this day), shopping, in museums, renting a car, and so many other countless ways.
11. Social Media
I’m always amazed when I see someone I’m Facebook friends with traveling in the same city I am. Even if I don’t know them well or at all, I will reach out to see if they want to get together. I feel like I have to, because how random is it that we’re both in London or wherever?
12. Bar
Ok, so if you do decide to check out the trendy bar you’ve been hearing so much about, do it! You don’t have to drink. Order a mocktail and play pool or darts.
Whatever you decide to do, just be open, have a positive mindset, and ask the universe/God to meet wonderful people and protect you on your travels.